Body keeps calling out for my husband

Dear Pastor,

I hope you can help me. I am a regular reader of your column in THE STAR newspaper and I always listen to your radio programme.

I have my favourite callers, but I have never called in because I don't have enough money to hold the line while some callers talk for a long time, so I just listen. I am 31 years old and I got married three years ago, but my husband is not living with me. He lives in America. We became friends some years ago and he came back to Jamaica to marry me. I have never been to America. He put in the papers for me, so, according to him, the process is going through. A lawyer is handling the matter for him. I am dying to join my husband in America. We speak to each other every day. He is always telling me to make sure that I am faithful to him, and I told him to make sure that he is faithful to me.

I like male friends, but I don't have any who are very close to me because I know what they will want. I don't even entertain my co-workers with certain conversations, because they always want to know if I don't need company. Some of the men in the company I work for are respectful, but some are rude and out of order. Sometimes I feel lonely and I feel for sex. Sometimes my vagina is just jumping, jumping, jumping, and I told my husband what is happening to me. He told me to hold on because, if it is sex I want, he is planning to come to Jamaica in November to spend a week with me and he will give me all the sex I want. I asked him what I should do until he gets here and he suggested that I have cold showers every time my private part jumps.

I have tried that suggestion a few times but it hasn't solved the problem totally. Do you have any suggestions?

L.A.

Dear L.A.,

I just want to remind my readers that I am not a medical doctor. I hold a master of arts degree in psychology and a doctorate in clinical counselling, as well as a PhD in psychology. It is true that I have studied extensively in the field of clinical counselling and psychology, but certain things I am not emphatic about whenever questions like yours are asked of me.

You want to know why your vagina jumps and whether it is true that that is happening to you because you need to have sexual intercourse. You have heard that when women are not having sexual intercourse often, their private part jumps. What I would suggest is that you discuss this matter with your gynaecologist. I remember some time ago a woman told me that, sometimes when she feels for sex, her private part jumps and she has had to beat it and tell it to behave itself.

Your husband told you to have cold showers and you have done so, but that does not always work. I hope you might be able to join your husband abroad very soon and all will be well with you. Thanks for writing, and I wish you well.

Pastor