Boyfriend loves to have quickies during lunchtime

Dear Pastor,

I am 20 years old and I am living with my boyfriend who is 22. I am not yet working.

I had a job, but I lost it. We are living about three miles from where my boyfriend works. He does not eat lunch from his workplace because it is very expensive. Sometimes he packs a sandwich and takes to work for lunch, but many times he has to come home, and I prepare lunch for him. Whenever he comes home, he wants more than a sandwich; he wants us to have sex. I don't object because I enjoy a quickie occasionally. I warned him that he may lose his job if he does not get back to work on time. But, so far, he has been able to do his thing and get back to work on time. He told me that he usually feels energised after fooling around with me.

I really love my boyfriend and I love his parents. His mother told me that I should behave myself and take good care of her son, because she would love for him to marry me. She is a good Christian woman. The problem we are having is that our rent is high, but I am hoping to get a job and for both of us to buy a house through the National Housing Trust. I did not know that I would be living with a man at my age. But my mother had to live with a man when she was younger than I am because when she got pregnant, her father told her that the man who got her pregnant should find a place for her to live.

I have a sister who is still living at my mother's home; she is 17. If I had a place with an extra room I would take her. I am afraid that somebody is going to get my sister pregnant, because she told me that she is sexually active. My boyfriend and I are paying $60,000 per month for rent. That amount of money could pay a mortgage.

A.T.

Dear A.T.,

I hope that your boyfriend and you will learn to love each other and that the love may grow, and eventually both of you would get married.

He seems to be a responsible man. He is trying to use money wisely. It is not always wise for a man to purchase lunch every day, so continue to prepare sandwiches for him for his lunch. Both of you seem to love having sex. He is not working far away from home and he behaves as if he is thirsty for sex every time he comes home for lunch. Be careful that you are not caught off guard and end up pregnant. You are not yet ready for a child. In fact, I don't know what your educational background is, but perhaps you should consider going back to school to learn a skill. Even if you were to get a job, a mortgage would be very expensive, so your boyfriend and you will have to put money together to pay it.

So be careful how much you fool around; use your head.

Pastor