My son cheated on girlfriend to prove he’s not gay

Dear Pastor,

I am a man in my 50s and I have seven children with two different women, but five of them with one woman.

I pride myself in being a good father. I started to have sex when I was 15 years old. I have four daughters and three sons. I have tried to educate all of them. Three of the girls, unfortunately, became pregnant early and left home. I did not chase them away.

My wife is like a queen. She has taken care of all the children and she has taken care of me too. I do not gamble, smoke or drink much alcohol. But I touched other women after I got married. My wife did not know about these other women.

My wife put on a considerable amount of weight after she had her children, but I never made her feel uncomfortable; I worked with the situation. A couple of times I told her that she should stop cooking certain meats, but she never took me on.

One of the women I fooled around with was her friend. I did not know that she would take me on, but she came to me and asked me for some money and I told her I would give it to her. She begged me not to tell my wife, that it should be a secret between us.

I told her that I wanted her to keep a bigger secret. She asked me what that would be and I told her I wanted her and she agreed. Sometimes I tell myself that I was very bad, because I should have given her the $10,000 and told her to go to her yard. But I gave her the money and she gave me what I wanted.

One of my sons has got himself into trouble because his girlfriend has complained to me that he is interested in having a relationship with her friend, and she is begging me to talk to him. I spoke to my son and he said it is the girl who offered herself to him, and when he told her that he was not interested, she said maybe he has 'gone the other way'. So to prove he had not done that, he had sex with her.

I made a joke out of it, but I know that is how some women behave when they offer themselves to a man and he refuses to go all the way with her.

I am begging you, Pastor, to talk to my son; give him some counselling. He and his girlfriend love each other and I would not want to see them break up.

E.P.

Dear E.P.,

Kindly ask your son to call my office Monday through Friday between 10 a.m. and 4 p.m. The numbers to call are 876-929-1667 or 876-877-1009; set an appointment to see me.

You seem to have had a happy marriage. But, like some men, you made mistakes. But you have tried to make a good home. You have a good wife; continue to take good care of her. I am glad she did not find out that you were unfaithful to her. You know you could have helped that woman who wanted help from you with the money without going to bed with her. You are a very naughty man.

Pastor