My daughter thinks my husband is a pervert

Dear Pastor,

I am a 41-year-old woman and I have been married for six years. My husband was married before, but his wife passed on.

I have a 15-year-old daughter; this man has three children with two different babymothers. His children are older than my daughter. She doesn't live with us, and neither does his children. My daughter lives with her father and stepmother, but we are very close. A year ago my daughter told me that she does not like how my husband looks at her, and one day he used his tongue to show her what he would like to do with her. I told her that she was making a mistake. She said no, she was not. She said she knew what that meant. I spoke to my husband about it and he said he was only joking with my daughter. I told him that was not a joke. He told me he was sorry that she took what he did seriously.

Recently, my daughter came back to spend another weekend with us and she complained that my husband was looking at her in a very sexy way, so she would prefer not to come back to the house. My daughter is not a silly girl. She is not sexually active. But I know I would put my husband in jail if he would attempt to rape my daughter.

I am planning to go to Miami for a week. I wanted my husband to go with us, but I am not going to take him with us because I would have to be watching him 24/7, and my daughter would not be comfortable. I asked her if she told her father about the behaviour of my husband and she said no. What do you suggest I do? My husband does not have another woman with me. What then does he see in my daughter?

E.M.

Dear E.M.,

You have to do your very best to protect your daughter, even from your husband, if she has complained to you that she suspects he would love to become intimate with her.

If he touches her, you must not have any mercy on him. So, to avoid that from happening, you should never ignore what she told you. As an intelligent woman, you should believe what she says. Too many mothers ignore the complaints that they have got from their daughters about fathers, stepfathers, etc. Some don't believe their daughters and the girls grow up to hate their mothers. Don't allow that to happen to you.

I warn you, be a good mother, always. I wish you well.

Pastor