My boyfriend loves to take me from behind

Dear Pastor,

I am 31 years old and I want to say keep up your good work. You are a good counsellor.

I am going with a 25-year-old man. He comes from a good family. They are not poor, but I come from a poor family. However, we were never living in poverty. We always had enough to eat and drink and we all went to school. My boyfriend is a handsome man and he works very hard. He has cars on the road. He does not allow me to take the bus. Only two of these cars are in his name. But every week, the drivers bring him money. He puts me in charge to collect the money. He does not allow me to come to his office.

One of the drivers tried to be 'facety' with me. He should have brought me $25,000, but instead, he brought me $20,000 and begged me not to tell my boyfriend. So I told him that was cool. But the following week he did the same thing and I also noticed that he wanted to be friends with me. So I told my boyfriend about it and he took away the car from the guy, who then threatened to shoot me and my boyfriend. So my boyfriend told him that he should go and choose his casket.

How could a man say he wants to go to bed with me but turns around and threatens me because I disagree with him and report him to my boyfriend? I would not want one of my boyfriend's workers. I would be afraid because my boyfriend knows too many people and I don't know who is who. I reported this man because I did not want my boyfriend to believe that I used the money without advising him what I did with it.

I want to marry this man. The only real problem I am having with him is that he likes to have sex on the floor and he likes to penetrate me from the rear. Sometimes my knees are all bruised up. My mother told me to make sure I do not get involved with any other man because she wants him as her son-in-law. But I can't tell my mother that he enjoys me from the rear because my mother and I do not have that type of conversation.

This man and I are saving to buy a house so that we can stop paying rent. Our rent right now is $80,000 per month.

L.T.

Dear L.T.,

I can only encourage you to stick with your man. You have the right to demand from the men who works for your boyfriend to give to you the amount that they agreed to bring in every week.

Some men cannot be trusted, that is why owners of taxis insist that the money be given every day. The guy was a fool to threaten you and to ask you to be intimate with him at the same time. You did what was right.

Concerning the sexual position that your boyfriend likes to engage you in, I do not wish to comment on that. People do what they feel they ought to do and what they enjoy. It seems to me however that you need to buy some knee pads to protect your knees, but I would not comment further on that.

Pastor