My co-worker blew my mind - I may resign my job to be with her

Dear Pastor,

I am a 24-year-old man and I want to know if something is wrong with me because girls are not showing any interest in me.

I am not an ugly man, and I am a supervisor at my workplace. The company is very strict. It does not encourage employees to date each other, so I do not break company rules.

I must confess, however, that I took the chance and went to bed with one of my co- workers. She called me when I was on vacation and told me that she was not feeling well, and she was alone and wouldn't mind seeing me. She gave me her address and told me that nobody was at her house, and I should feel free to visit her. Having got the invitation, I said to myself, why not. I quickly showered and called a taxi and went to see her. She was skimpily dressed when I got there. She told me that she was eager to see me, and that she was always admiring me. I told her I could not afford to lose my job.

I asked her about her boyfriend. I did not know that she had a child and she told me everything. This girl was really hot. She got down on her knees and begged me to make love her, even if it was going to be once. I did not know what to do, but she promised that she would never call me again.

Would you believe that after begging me to have sex with her, she took off her clothes and asked me to look at her and be truthful. She asked if anything was wrong with her and I told her not that I could see.

I did not use a condom. When we were finished she said that if I did not have sex with her, she would believe that I am gay.

Now, I cannot get this girl out of my mind. Every time I see her at work she always has a pleasant smile. Do you think I should leave this job and seek another? What she gave to me has messed up my brain and I can't concentrate.

The father of her child is living in America, and he does not support the child. The child is beautiful and I would not hesitate in adopting her. I want to hear what you have to say about this problem that I am having.

M.L,

Dear M.L,

Be careful -- this could be one of those situations where what seems sweet at first ends up causing trouble later. As old people would say, 'Wah sweet Nanny goat a guh run him belly".

You know that is the sex that you have enjoyed with this woman that is constantly on your mind. You have not been able to get over the effect it has had on you. In the first place, this co-worker got you to come to her house and she told you how much she has admired you. She then undressed herself and she showed you everything, and you could not resist what you saw. You had unprotected sex, which was not a wise thing to do, and since then you cannot get this woman out of your mind. It is compounded by the fact that you see her at work every day.

You may want to consider making management aware that you are in love with your co-worker, and you do not wish for both of you to play hide and seek, because you know it is against the rules of the company.

I would suggest that you talk to your employer about your situation. They may allow you and your girlfriend to have a relationship in the company. They may not allow her to supervise you, or for you to supervise her, and they may want to tell the other employees that yours is a special case.

Jobs are so difficult to get, so don't foolishly leave your job because it might take you months to get another.

I wish you well young man. Use wisdom as you approach this matter.

Pastor