Women complain that I am too large

Dear Pastor,

I am a 31-year-old man and I am still single. The reason why I am single is because every woman that I have had broke up with me after having sex with them one or two times. They told me that I am too large.

I have had to wear big pants and tie my penis down because any one looking at me could see that I have a large penis. When I say that my penis is large, I mean it is about nine inches in length so girls who claim that they like men with big penis are not always speaking the truth.

I have never tried to have sex with a woman in the day time or with the lights on because it is not a good sight.

I have a very good job and I am in love with a girl at my workplace. She says she likes me. I don't know if she heard that I am very large, but recently we went out and when I stopped at the gas station she put her hands on my leg. I looked at her she asked me if all of that is my penis, and I told her yes. When I got the gas, I drove away. We stopped at a restaurant and she said I could tell her what I wanted her to buy and she would purchase it. I love this girl but it does not appear that this relationship is going to get anywhere. I went to a doctor and he said many men would love to have my package. He also said that he did not see anything wrong with me.

I would like to hear your comments.

L.L.

Dear L.L,

I once counselled a woman who told me about a young man who was in love with her, but she had heard that other women were running away from him because of his size. However, she was in need of help so she consented to have sex with him. What I will never forget is that this woman told me that the man was about eight or nine inches long, and she took her time with him, and she was able to "swallow" that length of penis.

However, the relationship did not last. I did not question her why it did not last, but I figured that she came to realise that she could not maintain that length for a long time.

I went to seminary in Jacksonville, Florida, where I met lots of great people. One of the pastors in Jacksonville was in charge of a very lively church. He was doing very well and one of his members told me that he preached a sermon that she could never forget. It was against pre-marital sex. She said a man became a part of a church and fell in love with her, so she made it clear to him that there can be no sex until they were married and he agreed.

On the night after they got married, she prepared for her husband and he was delaying, but eventually he came to bed and he attempted to have sex with her. However, he was so large he could not insert his penis into her vagina. Frustrated, she got up and turned on the lights, and almost fainted when she saw the size of the man's penis.

She asked him a question, "What are you going to do with that?". He had no answer and she did not allow him to continue to try to enter her. The marriage was not consummated and she told herself that she would never marry a man unless she has sex with him before the wedding date. She blamed her pastor for preaching that pre-marital sex is wrong.

I mentioned these two things to tell you that perhaps you may find a lady who can fit your size. Your doctor told you that you should not fret, and if the doctor says that you shouldn't, you should believe him.

I will ask you please to have a serious talk with your urologist and see if he or she may be able to advise you appropriately.

Pastor